tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post5701711054071835456..comments2023-10-29T04:29:29.607-07:00Comments on Pieces of Me: ConfidenceP.O.M.http://www.blogger.com/profile/16410533843419723414noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-39665187806587133752008-03-29T22:44:00.000-07:002008-03-29T22:44:00.000-07:00Haha, I completely agree with the POM Institute. ...Haha, I completely agree with the POM Institute. This is why I am perfectly fine in my singledom for now. I'm happy to be me and if I meet someone by chance that'll be great. I've had enough of subjecting myself to self absorbed idiots!Run For Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08070790890115638664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-41951074619791289102008-03-29T16:27:00.000-07:002008-03-29T16:27:00.000-07:00Well . . . the guy looks happy in his own little w...Well . . . the guy looks happy in his own little world!<BR/><BR/>It does make me glad to be married, though!Briannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04641147724155240676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-29957834828130547852008-03-28T10:27:00.000-07:002008-03-28T10:27:00.000-07:00I don't know that it's confidence, per se, I think...I don't know that it's confidence, per se, I think it's probably more of a laid back attitude about things. I think some women are so tied up in thinking that THIS GUY HAS TO LIKE ME OR I WILL DIE. PLEASE LIKE ME. And men are just so much more laid back, like if it clicks, it clicks. They don't have so much of themselves invested in the process. <BR/><BR/>Please note: the aforementioned does NOT pertain to online dating. Although my very good friends met through eHarmony and are now getting married, I think online dating is great for an ego boost and to get into the practice of dating, but in general, I found it fairly disastrous. <BR/><BR/>I have no idea if this had anything to do with it -- and I HATED hearing this kind of stuff from married friends when I was single -- but as soon as I relaxed and told myself whatever happens happens, I met my husband.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12013504768642605916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-20947721186509411562008-03-28T07:47:00.000-07:002008-03-28T07:47:00.000-07:00I'm sorry, I can't focus on any words of wisdom b/...I'm sorry, I can't focus on any words of wisdom b/c I can't take my eyes off of that hideous picture!RunnerGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07217423305510565454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-64518968571523396872008-03-28T05:43:00.000-07:002008-03-28T05:43:00.000-07:00Evolution. There's more women than men which means...Evolution. There's more women than men which means even hippies in loud spandex shorts can expect to attract someone, if only for a night.Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04377440606704745517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-43844658514382549232008-03-27T22:12:00.000-07:002008-03-27T22:12:00.000-07:00It's got to be said that a confident women can be ...It's got to be said that a confident women can be sexy but an over confident one can be scary. It's something that comes from within and I think it's like presenting; if you know your topic then you're comfortable so <I> maybe </I> the issue is knowing yourself?Stuarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16841289199998319545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-62675030444887194542008-03-27T21:44:00.000-07:002008-03-27T21:44:00.000-07:00I have no idea why, but it is totally true. or at ...I have no idea why, but it is totally true. or at least guys ACT more confident than women. I am a true feminist so I know I am just as awesome. hahaah.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11316331427936427121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-49162914210134650922008-03-27T20:41:00.000-07:002008-03-27T20:41:00.000-07:00ok, kelly o's plank pick-up totally had me laughin...ok, kelly o's plank pick-up totally had me laughing. as did the picture...<BR/><BR/>I haven't dated in uh. a long time. But I'd agree with the other comments, I think women are naturally a little harsher on themselves.katieohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08339475353059389950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-6031981045340392422008-03-27T19:58:00.000-07:002008-03-27T19:58:00.000-07:00I totally agree with you. I think women are wired...I totally agree with you. I think women are wired to be people pleasers and so much of what we do is centered around that. At least that is how it is for me anyway. :>P<BR/><BR/>Funny pic!!J~Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05801414494327642020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-65632367247337114332008-03-27T19:29:00.000-07:002008-03-27T19:29:00.000-07:00Hm,In my little circle of University friends, gene...Hm,<BR/>In my little circle of University friends, generally the guys are more confident than the girls. You rarely get a girl going up to a guy (unless of course there is alcohol involved). It doesn't make any logical sense, but it happens. I guess women are just more afraid of getting shot down and rejected than guys. <BR/><BR/>There are, however, definately exceptions to this rule. I have a friend who introduces herself to everyone and a guy friend that doesn't talk. So. <BR/><BR/>Its probably just the social norms that people are brought up in; even today in a lot of places women are seen as fragile rather than independent. <BR/><BR/>I find however, there is a fine line between confidence and cockiness. <BR/><BR/>So thats my 2 centsAddictedToEndorphinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08289165436547387984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-44303712051961847402008-03-27T18:45:00.000-07:002008-03-27T18:45:00.000-07:00OMG this is so true. And then in addition to this ...OMG this is so true. And then in addition to this there is the added phenomenon of the dorkiest men having the MOST confidence and bravado about approaching women...especially at my gym. I had a guy come up to me, while I was in a plank position WITH MY IPOD ON, tap my shoulder, ask me to get up. Then he's like, I noticed you workout with a trainer, can you show me some adductor exercises?? Then he goes into a long story about breaking up with his fiancee and how he still has the VERY EXPENSIVE RING.....Good Lord!! I too am now dating again after a lovely divorce and it is SCARY. We really should post a study comparing the correlation between gender and ego/self confidence. Would be too entertaining. I remember one guy that IM'd me and within 5 seconds of "meeting" me online asked for my measurements and then told me about his "rock hard abs". Goodness.Kelly Olexahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17831405527385476916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-54685910229359911112008-03-27T17:48:00.000-07:002008-03-27T17:48:00.000-07:00Just dropping by to say hello and, wow, did this p...Just dropping by to say hello and, wow, did this post bring up memories of dating for me...Romancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09902489253812580658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-78172711398868539582008-03-27T17:43:00.000-07:002008-03-27T17:43:00.000-07:00Yeah, I don't (or never really have had) much conf...Yeah, I don't (or never really have had) much confidence. Women worry about how they're perceived by other women and men could care less.<BR/><BR/>I gotta ask where did you get that picture? That's scary. It's a very bad combination of clothing and accessories. ouch.Mendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00968363500551483010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-50947837744367567602008-03-27T16:24:00.000-07:002008-03-27T16:24:00.000-07:00Women seem to be judged so much harder on their lo...Women seem to be judged so much harder on their looks and personalities than men, even by other women, which makes us feel less confident. <BR/><BR/>That and men seem to be either really cocky or clueless about themselves.Crissy Raehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15960584706958582064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-1296495858381885472008-03-27T15:47:00.000-07:002008-03-27T15:47:00.000-07:00I agree with D10 as well. Also, I've noticed there...I agree with D10 as well. Also, I've noticed there's a couple kinds of confidence with women (or people?). Some women are confident in that they know they are fantastic, smart, attractive women, but maybe get intimidated by others. I've also known women who project confidence but when you get to know them they don't value themselves much. Maybe guys just have projecting confidence down.<BR/>That guy's shorts are gross!Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07819934745994804681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-23783497287404406012008-03-27T15:24:00.000-07:002008-03-27T15:24:00.000-07:00I was going to say the SAME thing as d10, but she ...I was going to say the SAME thing as d10, but she said it better LOL. Women tend to downplay because of what others might think.<BR/><BR/>I am SOOOO LMAO at that pic HAHAAMarcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14148093449696230770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-48131341069370466712008-03-27T13:42:00.000-07:002008-03-27T13:42:00.000-07:00You're talking about confidence in ones looks righ...You're talking about confidence in ones looks right? Not confidence as a whole.<BR/><BR/>Maybe its because as women our worth is often measured in relation to our looks. And in my experience, its other people (ie blokes) who have the power to decide whether we make the grade.<BR/><BR/>Men on the other hand tend to be valued (by society) for other qualities, like wealth or success...<BR/><BR/>But the fact they exaggerate/lie doesnt suggest theyre confident...quite the opposite I thinkTriGirl Theahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10743260268103009736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-55681813439299581072008-03-27T13:32:00.000-07:002008-03-27T13:32:00.000-07:00That picture makes me cringe.That picture makes me cringe.TonyPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00781491037413964366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-43114459718483008512008-03-27T13:31:00.000-07:002008-03-27T13:31:00.000-07:00GLAM- I'm so glad you know what i'm talking about....GLAM- I'm so glad you know what i'm talking about. It's a crazy phenom. I think you have to be in the dating world to get it. I just want to shake these a-holes and say "DUDE, you are NOT all that!" <BR/><BR/>NANCY - hmmm... you are definately on to something here!P.O.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16410533843419723414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-45935638268386222072008-03-27T13:29:00.000-07:002008-03-27T13:29:00.000-07:00All the pressure to be smart and thin and pretty i...All the pressure to be smart and thin and pretty in order to be worthy? Just a guess. :DNancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14684236668997938263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-58684059937074874022008-03-27T13:13:00.000-07:002008-03-27T13:13:00.000-07:00This is sooooo funny because I'm going through thi...This is sooooo funny because I'm going through this right now! I'm doing the online thing and I find myself seriously questioning a large portion of the men on there. Where does their confidence come from? I would call it delusional. It must be an epidemic!<BR/><BR/>I on the other hand tried to be 100% honest, confident, yet modest. It's a hard combo to pull off!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16540050985010787833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-6776987738007857742008-03-27T12:29:00.000-07:002008-03-27T12:29:00.000-07:00I did the Match.com thing all last summer and you ...I did the Match.com thing all last summer and you are so right! Those guys do think they are The Shit. One guy used an old pic from like 15 years ago and when I met him, he had this gut, and he tucked his shirt in! EWWWWW. I was like, "you totally need to update your picture, now see ya".Judihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17659061902462311046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-83271956653758370992008-03-27T12:24:00.000-07:002008-03-27T12:24:00.000-07:00In my experience, I have known many confident wome...In my experience, I have known many confident women. However, in general I think women are more worried or conscience about what others (both male and female) will perceive them as being or what others think. Man on the other hand, don’t seem to be as worried with what others think (ie. if the hair looks good, outfit fits just right, have cute shoes, decent job, fun friends, smell nice, etc).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-58897036105091007572008-03-27T11:40:00.000-07:002008-03-27T11:40:00.000-07:00We as women tend to over think things, guys just g...We as women tend to over think things, guys just go by what feels good at the moment....<BR/><BR/>BTW, he looks like a guy I went to school with in the 60's. hahahahaLily on the Roadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02275939535831908513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5417535823506217209.post-74240212325557223222008-03-27T11:18:00.000-07:002008-03-27T11:18:00.000-07:00Disclaimer: This dude isn't really on match, as f...Disclaimer: This dude isn't really on match, as far as I know. I just used him as an example. Kinda mean, but it fit my opinion. And don't we all search for evidence to back up our own opinions? I know i do :)P.O.M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16410533843419723414noreply@blogger.com