I will be the first to admit that I'm easily irritate or "EI" as I frequently call myself.
I've made it pretty clear that I have embraced my inner-planner and I'm proud of it.
This recent email convo with the "boy who didn't open the door for me" is a prime example of my easy irritable-ness. My commentary is in green.
Me: I am working on my marathon training plan right now.
BWDOTDFM: When are you planning on starting that training plan? What does that consist of? I am gonna start running after the gym real soon again.
Me: It starts this weekend with a 10 miler. Then basically, long runs on the weekends and running 3 times during week. I really want to stick with yoga 2 to 3 times per week, also. (Then I sent him my long run schedule ~ hey, he asked.)
BWDOTDFM: Nice to see you didn't plan anything out. Just playing it by ear are we? (Sarcasm is funny, but not when it's stupid.)
Me: You have to plan out your long runs – Marathon training takes a lot of PLANNING.
BWDOTDFM: I know, "I plan out everything. My middle name is planner!" (Why do men find planning to be such a negative thing? Seriously?)
I'll tell ya one thing. I'm going to PLAN on not seeing him any more. How about them plans?
Maybe I just don't like him
or I'm really not ready to date
(probably a little of both),
but I keep finding little things like this that annoy me.
I hope he doesn't find my blog.
Monday, June 2, 2008
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Plus "Boy who didn't open the door for me" is a really stupid nick name, so I think I must end it now.
So, I'm reading this book by Stephanie Klein called "Straight Up and Dirty"; it's a memoir about dating after her divorce. Her wit, charm, and (validly) high expectations of men's behavior kind of remind me of you. Check it out. It's good for a laugh if nothing else.
Oh, plus, if he's referred to as "boy" who didn't open the door and not "man" who didn't open the door, definitely ditch him!
Hey, I'm a guy...I don't find planning annoying. I love to plan, especially marathon plans =)
Me thinks maybe you need to date a runner?
if you are this annoyed by him, its a sign. Dump the moron. And what's with guys that always want to "wing it"?? Good Lord, I don't get it. I'm a MAJOR PLANNER. Even on vacation, I have to plan each day out....how long to lay out, what to eat, when to workout etc.
me thinks this guy sounds like a total creepish-dweebish and i just may have something a little more appealing for ya up in san fran! :P
I think if you call him a boy he's not worth your plans :) My family gives me crap because they think I'm too quick to dump people - but I say why waste the energy? You've got better things to do!
I can't add any advice that the other commenters haven't covered but I LOVED your commentary on the whole convo. You are so right about misused sarcasm. It's a crime.
And hey - thanks for stopping by my blog & leaving me a comment:) Looks like we have similar type A personalities...
Guys think that since you like to plan, that you are planning out this future with them or something. I don't know that is my take on it.
I *heart* the last line. I plan on not seeing you anymore. ROFLAMO!
I second The Laminator: Date a runner. Find someone who "gets it". Keep in mind- dating = interview. Gotta find you a baby daddy...
What a lame-o obviously we have to plan or else we'd drop dead at mile 10...seriously.
Sometimes dudes make my head hurt haha. Love your running commentary though!
I don't plan for marathons, so maybe he'd like me. But I still think he sounds like an idiot!
I'm undecided as to whether or not runners should date runners. On the one hand, it'd be cool to date someone who gets it, and doesn't think I'm crazy with the races and long runs I do. On the other hand, it'd also be fun to have someone who was more content to cheer me on than to run :) I think I'm open to either - just depends on the guy. And I think that's kind of what you have to do. Don't set your criteria; just wait for the right guy to come along.
Then again I'm still single so what do I know...
When I first started to read the conversation, I thought he might be nice but just didn't get the planning or running thing. By the time I finished reading, I was annoyed too. He sounds immature!
Didn't hold the door AND takes the mickey out your running!
'nuff said! CYA!
Yeah, this guy doesn't sound date-able. NEXT.
You're probably just holding out for me. :D
Seriously, if he annoys you, that's enough. I don't think anyone is going to attempt to talk you out of being annoyed. Listen to your gut, sista.
Doesn't particularly sound like a love connection. If he is already being a sarcastic sammy about your planning then he may just need the boot! Wear some steel-toed shoes when you do it, too.
I'm with Nanc. If you find him annoying ALREADY it's just going to get worse. He's totally wasting your time. You're a fo really reals hot chick with many options available, homeboy needs to go.
Yep, missallycat nailed it, NEXT.
The boy's Mama didn't raise him up right. Where I come from we call him Road Kill.
OK. I guess there isnt much left to say after everyone else, but it sounds like time to kick the boy to the curb
Hey, we like to plan stuff! Sunday – football, Monday night – football, Saturday – football….see we can plan too!
Yup, time to say buh-bye. If he's already annoying you this early on that's not a good sign.
Bigger and better, doll, bigger and better. I guarantee you. See? I'm not bitter *all* of the time! ;)
First impressions mean a lot and this guy is clearly an idiot. I agree with you that a red flag went up as soon as he opened his mouth (with his brutal and inappropriate use of sarcasm). Adios BWDOTDRM, it's been nice not knowing you.
Oh, I would have been so annoyed if that was me! If a guy doesn't get my need to have a colourful Excel spreadsheet showing me exactly what I'm supposed to do for training today, then he doesn't really get me. And I'm not sure he sounds like the type that would be cheering you on at the finish line, and then he's definitely not dateable!
When someone captivates you, you won't even notice their annoying habits.
I was kind of seeing a guy the last two months of my half marathon training and he didn't get it.... the training thing. Then the day of my race, didn't even call me to wish me luck and then asked how my race went via text the next night. That was a turning point in our dating relationship and I haven't talked to him since!
I hope this works out for the best...
I think you and I may have a lot in common!
More proof that God will put a penis on just about anything.
You should brb that douche tube and find someone that embraces the fact that you are a motivated, organized woman with ambition and all that greatness stuff.
I meant to tell you... I'm addicted to Duffy and her album called Rockferry. Don't know if you've heard of it, but it's been getting my through some rough patches:
"All the days spent together, I wish for better
and I didn't want the train to come, now it's departed
I'm broken hearted, seems like we never started.
All those things here together, when I wished for better
And I didn't want the train to come
You think you're loving, but you don't love me
I want to be free.
Baby you've hurt me, you don't love me,
I want to be free, baby you hurt (heard) me."
okay, it rocks. seriously.
the irritations will just keep coming if they have started already... bye bye boy :)
Dump that dude!
I'm thinking he probably isn't the one and your not ready yet. If he was and you were, you wouldn't have noticed the car door and his sarcasm would suddenly be funny.
Anyone who has never trained for any distance running whatsoever, will not EVER understand the planning aspect.
Let him run whatever like Lance Armstrong did the first time around, only BWDOTDFY will die on the course somewhere.
I hate him and I dont even know him.
Dump him! High five!
The whole point of dating is to see if you like somebody. Turns out you don't like this guy. Tell him that the internet has spoken.
I like your plan to dump him!
I agree with June, BWDOTFM obviously doesn't run and specifically run marathons because if he did he wouldn't question this. My male friends that are true runners understand the need to be a little crazy about the training in order to get yourself mentally prepared to dedicate TONS and sometimes it seems like ALL free time to the training schedule.
I do think you kinda exposed your wires by handing over the plan, I probably wouldn't have done that. But I think you were smart to do it because you were being honest about who you are.
Really if he didn't open my car door I would probably be over already. I dig guy with manners.
Agreed - you sound annoyed. Next!!!
He's a loser. He should admire a woman with a goal who knows how to achieve it!
POM, I am burying this comment.. but just know that if you receive any comments and/or emails with the name daydreamer or dreamchaser...BEWARE...you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you have concerns or questions...
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